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Before you start dating after a long relationship

The biggest obstacle and simply a mindset that you must be willing to learn. In doing research for my article I found that there is so much information online from other articles written, forums and groups on Facebook, actually all over the internet. I am not a psychologist or therapist so you may ask what do I know, well what I do know is that traditional dating is much different than when I was young or even after my divorce. After being married for 29 years of the 70’s 80’s and 90’s, I never dreamed I would be thinking about dating, but immediately I had friends that wanted to introduce me to men. Now in my business, I had opportunities to talk with men and it was easy to strike up conversations and learn about their lives but not from the standpoint of dating, but just having that type of relationship-friendship, “with men”. But when it came time to start dating I thought at the time, what do I do, how do I act? Crazy right, I was nervous and not at all at ease, so why was it so different, what made it so difficult. Well, I think it was a different mindset, that a man would see me differently somehow. You definitely feel like you are trying to make a good impression. But I had a few dates and realized it was not that hard, I had to think of the date more like a business relationship at first, then once I got more used to this new experience, I was more comfortable in moving forward. And everyone is going to be different in the way they approach dating after a long relationship, or maybe a partner passing. Some will tell you to wait for a period of time, especially if you have been in a long term relationship and there were unpleasant circumstances you would need to give yourself some time.

But moving forward into this decade its a whole new scene, there’s online dating and there are businesses like Yvonne Allen & Associates Unlike dating agencies and websites, Yvonne Allen™ and Associates provides consulting, matchmaking and search services for the discerning business and professional single.

As our consultancy is a boutique, we can tailor our approach to your needs and expectations. Our team is highly trained, caring professionals who ensure your confidentiality. Our profiling, interviewing techniques and one-on-one advice means that we are able to introduce you to people who are not only potentially compatible with you but who also share your relationship goals. Meeting our way gives chance a hand!

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And reading a bit about a dating service or matchmaking service, they can help make dating a smoother and easier time for someone just getting back in the dating scene when looking for someone to share your life with. There’s no reason to hurry, there is a quote: “Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”
By Ann Landers

And there might be a good amount of time before you find just the right person to fall in love with like me. But I also had some help, my friend introduced me to her dad and now she is my best friend and stepdaughter. I’ll bet you don’t hear that very often. But there have been some awkward moments if there are things in my marriage that don’t go well, so I just dont talk to her about it.

I found this fun post on Pinterest to give you some ideas “What to do on a first sate and 7 things to avoid”