What You Can Do To Help Your Child Through a Divorce

What-You-Can-Do-To-Help-Your-Child-Through-a-Divorce-is-ensure-your-children-that-it-isnt-their-faultHelping Your Child Through a Divorce

If parting ways is difficult enough for both parents, imagine for a child who probably thought mom and dad’s bond was unbreakable. Separation isn’t an easy process for anyone, but the right approach helps all involved to go through the situation without friction.

In the US, around 40 percent of couples go through a divorce, making it a common experience—not any less difficult, though. However peaceful and no-fault a breakup may be, the couple’s children will show some form of discontent. Whether that’s sadness, anxiety, or irritability, the parents should expect negative reactions.

The fact is, these reactions are short-lived. But while times are tough, there’s a lot you can do to help your child.

Break the News Together

It doesn’t matter if the relationship ended in good terms or not, telling a child about the divorce should be a mutual decision. Both parents should agree to set a date and time to talk about the separation. This shouldn’t be a time to blame or point fingers at each other, as the child will need more support than ever.

While older children might have a better idea of what’s been going on around the house, the news will likely come as a shock for young children, especially if the parents have been keeping the arguments private. In certain ages, the minds of children won’t understand why mom and dad won’t be together and might jump to the conclusion that they don’t love each other anymore. As a parent, it’s your job to counter that.

You can start by telling younger children that mom and dad won’t be living in the same house. Dad (or mom) will live somewhere else, but you’ll both still love your child unconditionally. Reassure your child that she will get to see both of you and that none of you will “go away”. Even as the age goes up, never forget to tell your child that the situation isn’t their fault.

Keep Fights Out of Earshot

In the case of an unhealthy relationship, conflict is expected. However, what’s between parents should stay between parents and away from the children. That has to do with the potential mental health issues fighting in front of your children can cause. Seeing dad being bad to mom (or vice-versa) will not only make a child scared to be treated that way, but it can give him a bad example of how relationships should work. Also, arguing about who gets custody can confuse a child and make them think someone’s going away forever, which isn’t the case.

Therefore, parents should keep child custody and family law matters between themselves and a good attorney, and only talk to children about matters they understand, such as answering questions about when they’ll be able to see the other parent.

Of course, you’ll need a good family lawyer to settle your divorce, someone as experienced as these family lawyers in Brisbane. Choosing someone with years of experience in family legal services will help you move on from this difficult time without conflicts.

Offer Emotional and Psychological Support

Encourage your child to talk about their fears, and listen to them without judgment. Answer all kinds of questions she might have, as difficult as they might be to answer. If she has any signs of child anxiety, it might help to send her to a therapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). With the assistance of a professional, your child will change their thought pattern and positively accept the situation as it is.

Is your family religious? If so, the VBS program teaches kids about the story of God and his forever love. Children, especially younger, won’t have to try and read the whole Bible to understand that they’re always loved and protected from above.

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The sooner your child understands what’s going on, the better—especially if she knows it’s not her fault and there’s no reason for concern. Constantly remind her that mom and dad’s love will remain regardless of what happens, and they’ll never feel like there’s a missing piece in the family.
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Neck and Back Pain and What I Have Tried

Neck-and-Back-Pain-and-What-I-Have-Tried-And-Why-I-am-Looking-Into-Stem-Cell-TherapyHave you ever had a neck or back injury?

Or do you know someone that has developed a problem from arthritis in their neck or back?

There are so many reports and studies on these types of maladies. Including yours truly. Over the years and due to falls or car accidents, those past injuries have surfaced starting with having pain in my neck and sciatic. At first, in my back, I just thought my back was out of place and so I went to the chiropractor for adjustments and that worked for a while.

Then I started feeling a different kind of pain in my back. That is when I went to my doctor and she ordered Xray’s and after seeing the results, I had to go for MRIs and CT Scans then she sent me to an orthopedic doctor.

He told me I had disk degeneration, bulging disks including spinal stenosis ¹, (which happens with age).

But on this visit with the orthopedic doctor, he told me I needed surgery, of course, I didn’t like that answer, so I found another doctor. With the second doctor’s opinion, the treatment was not so invasive. He prescribed physical therapy, exercises, anti-inflammatories, and pain pills.

The latest was epidurals in my lower back which gave me some relief, however, due to long waits with referrals and the time for the doctor to perform the epidurals the pain would return rather quickly. So what is next, I will be trying Ablation ² in the coming month and will update on the effects.

Update 3/9/2020 I had the ablation on the left side and it will take 4-6 weeks for the nerves to die that they burned during the procedure. It was fine the first day but on the 2nd and 3rd-day after I was in a lot of pain and burning in my leg. But I can report that has stopped. I go back in a week for the other side. Hopefully, within 2 months I will have a better quality of life and less to no pain.

So what alternatives are available:

Because I am refusing to have surgery, I wanted to know what options I have for treatment and a better quality of life.

Of course, there is still surgery
♦ More Physical Therapy

♦ Ablation (uh·blei·shn)
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How is Ablation used: It is the treatment of nerves that are causing the pain determined with a facet procedure to find the nerves that are causing the pain.

“It is a nonsurgical, minimally invasive procedure that uses heat to reduce or stop the transmission of pain”¹.

Stem Cell therapy is being used in a wide range of procedures  –– too many to mention. But I found a stem cell therapy for neck pain case study that was quite informative. In the piece, I learned that after being treated with stem cell therapy the patient was able to and return to normal activities.

No matter what the injury has been, I found that it is best to seek the advice of professionals at Coventry Back Pain and if you don’t like the information you are getting, keep researching until you find something that will work for you.

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9 Gifts You Can Buy When You’re Broke


 9-Gifts-You-Can-Buy-When-You’re-BrokeA bottle of champagne for a friend’s birthday, an expensive towel set for a bride’s wedding, show tickets for your parent’s anniversary. If you have a fat bank account, gift-giving is easy. Figuring out what to do when you’re broke, however, is a lot trickery. They say that it’s the thought that counts but how can you express your thoughts without any cash?

Well, you’re not the first person to be in this situation. If you want to give someone a gift but aren’t sure if you can afford it, keep reading. Below, you’ll find a few ideas that may help.

  1. Baked Goods

If you can bake, you never have to spend more than $10 on a gift. People love homemade goodies. A gooey, chocolatey cake tastes better than an Oreo. You can even bake a delicious treat if you don’t know how to cook. Boxed cake mix, for example, can be dressed up with colorful frosting and sprinkles.

  1. Babysitting

Does the person that you’re trying to treat have young children? If so, offer your services as a babysitter for a night. Most parents would love to get a night to themselves. Finding a reliable, affordable sitter, however, is a challenge. That’s why this is such a great offer. The best part? You don’t have to spend a dime.

  1. Books

A good book is an invaluable find. Readers often appreciate receiving books from their loved ones. The gift offers an insight into your personality. You can either give your friend a book that you think they’ll love, or you can give them a book that’s deeply personal to you. There are books that define you. Sharing the experience with someone who you love can be very moving.

You should also consider the recipient’s hobbies in order to truly do something personalized for them. For example, if they love to cook, you might give spiral-bound cookbooks from Spiralized Books, which makes it much easier for them to navigate recipes right from the kitchen.

  1. Intimate Night

Are you trying to pick out a fun, sexy gift for your intimate partner? Buying sex toys might be your first choice if you have cash. If not, here’s what you can do. Tea lights can be purchased for less than $5. You can buy cheap red fabric to throw over the lamps. Voila! Your room will instantly become sexier. If you can’t afford massage oil, you can use coconut oil. You might already have it in your kitchen.

  1. Paint

If you’re a good artist, you’re in luck. Personalized artwork is immensely valuable. A unique painting looks amazing in anyone’s home. If you go this route, you only have to pay for the supplies and your own time. The more time that you’re going to devote to the gift, the more special it is. A quick caricature might be appropriate for a coworker. A painstakingly created oil painting, meanwhile, is better suited for a romantic partner or close family member.

  1. Freelance Websites

There are a ton of online platforms for artists and creators to sell their wares. Fiverr, Etsy, etc. You can find a gift that matches your budget if you get creative. For example, you can find someone on Fiverr who will make you a funny video for $5. It’s a completely unique gift that will make your friend feel loved.

  1. Homemade Soap

If you have time to spare, making homemade bathroom supplies can actually be pretty fun. You can create pretty, sweet-smelling soap without spending a lot of money on supplies. People appreciate the effort that goes into making homemade goods. That’s why soap created by your own hands might be even more beloved than soap that came from a major chain store.

  1. Time

Give someone the gift of your time. Dedicate the entire day to hanging out with them and doing things that they like. Watch the shows that they like on TV, eat their favorite fast food, and visit their favorite park. You don’t need to spend money to have a good time. Pack a picnic lunch and a kite and spend an hour or two at the park. Let your friend know that the entire day is about them.

  1. Alcohol

If your friend or partner is a drinker, you can give them alcohol as a gift. To make it affordable, arrange to have a drinking night at home. You can find a bottle of wine for $5. If you’re drinking together, it’s not about the quality of the alcohol, it’s about the time spent together.

Giving gifts to people you love is one of the joys of life. It may be more difficult if you don’t have money, but it’s not impossible.
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